Whatever you believe, something is speaking to you.


There are moments when we hear a voice in our minds or see something and interpret it in a way in which you had no rational idea for why you interpreted it that way.  The key is to pay attention.

I’ve been that person to disregard what I hear, what I see if it doesn’t immediately resonate with my current understanding…and I’m sure I’m not the only one! As we grow as humans and try to figure what all “this” is about, being open to listening to new thoughts and ideas is imperative.

Think of the first day at your current job. When you walked in, you knew you had to go in with an open mind and open ears. You were entering a place where people are already in motion, walking around throwing out acronyms and names of people like a foreign language you have yet to understand. You have two choices: You can plug your ears and walk out, or you can remain open and to soak up all the knowledge everyone is willing to offer. The first few months of the new job is all about listening and receiving.

So whatever it is, right now, that is speaking to you. Whatever voice, symbol, person, or thought-process that keeps revealing itself, just listen. You don’t have to understand why or who or even how. All that matters is that you unplug your ears, open your heart and mind and remain open to whatever it is “out there” that is trying to get your attention.



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Recently I watched a video by Canna of SugarMamma.tv where she emphasized money as energy and financial transactions as an exchange of energy. It got me to rethink purchases and view spending as more than handing over a physical piece of plastic or paper. When we hand over our hard-earned cash for something we don’t feel good about we lose precious energy. I’ve heard this concept before but never fully understood it until a recent purchase at Ulta.

In the ever-evolving world of cosmetics, Laura Mericer reformulated their Silk Creme foundation, much to the chagrin of dedicated purchasers — including myself. After three bottles over 2 years of this liquid gold I was on the search for something new. I researched online, took some advice from my favorite beauty YouTuber and friend, Lisa, but I couldn’t decide between 3 finalists. I wrote each on a piece of paper, tossed them in a cup and let the foundation gods decide: BECCA it was.

Off I go to Ulta where I was promptly told the foundation I was looking at was way too much coverage for my skin. I was directed to take a seat where the beautiful girl pulled out a primer and CC Cream from It Cosmetics. She removed my make-up and redid my face with the new stuff. One hundred nine dollars later I was out the door sans pep in my step.

You see, I’m not a makeup girl. I used to be, but not anymore. I don’t look right with heavy eye shadows and liners and blush so my daily makeup is down to the bare basics: Foundation, concealer, eye brow powder, an eye lash curler, bronzer, and setting powder. So why I felt the need to add a primer wasn’t because I needed it, it was because I was “sold” it. I went to Ulta with the intention of buying a foundation and nothing else; the foundation purchase was an equal energy exchange.

To equate to a cell phone batter, my energy was full going in, but the battery percentage dropped from a 97% to about 45%. And it continued to go down over the next few days. That primer purchase ($50.88) slowly chipped away at my psyche. The night of the purchase I woke up in the middle of the night in an unnecessary panic and decided I needed to return the primer. Not because I did not have the money, but I felt like something wasn’t quite right.

I shook the feeling and kept on. I used the primer like the beautiful sales girl told me to, but every time I pumped the product onto my finger tips and put it on my face I felt nothing but disdain and regret. Yesterday, after five full days of this I decided once and for all that primer was going back.

I walked into Ulta, product and receipt in hand and asked the beautiful cashier to please accept the return. And with that $50.88 returned to my bank account and I walked out with a pep in my step and my battery shot back up to 97%.

The moral of the story is our money is earned through our time away from home and our mental, physical and spiritual energy. Some of that money has to go toward other energy suckers that are quite necessary: rent or mortgage, debt on credit cards, student loans, car and insurance payments, gas, etc. But the rest is ours! That money energy is ours to use as we wish! What a luxury! Think of it this way: Would you spend your physical energy on a workout you hate? For example, I don’t run. I’m not a runner, so I would rather use my physical energy on yoga or pilates instead of running. That is how we should view our money and when we spend it.

Just like a cell phone battery, we are recharged daily. However, we as humans are blessed with various ways of being charged: through sleep, food, laughter, love, and payday! How we use our energy reserves it up to the individual. To keep with the theme of this post, would we want use that precious energy reserved just for us and waste it on face primers that are over priced and not necessary?


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I’ve been thinking a bit about the demand for excellence and the amount of demand others place on us and the amount we place on ourselves.

Many of us grew up where grades were the most important part of life. What mark you received on your English exam was far more important than anything else on the planet at that moment. Everything was riding on that single letter, marked in red at the top of a page. Not everyone put as much effort into grades and failed or did well regardless – but still, that letter carried tons of meaning. It determined your worth when you came home to show your parents. If you got an “A” or a “B”, it hung on the fridge. If you got a “C” well do better next time. Anything past a “D” and the dreaded “PARENT SIGNATURE” left you walking home from school in shame. (I had a few of those, but math stinks, right!?)

As adults, we do not get grades but we are graded on every single thing we do from what we do in the office to what we do at home. Then there is everything in between…

The demand for excellence is no longer limited to tests or homework. As adults to be excellent is placed upon us by our bosses, our companies, our customers, our children, our spouses, our parents, strangers in the cars around us, cashiers, doctors, and the list goes on and on. On some level every single one of us has an expected level of excellence placed upon us and it is compounded by the expected level we place upon ourselves!

How often do we get a critique then beat ourselves up in our minds and demand to do better next time? Not just better, though… perfectly, perhaps? The “even better” standard can be anything from eating a better meal at lunch to shining the kitchen sink and the gradation of that “better” depends upon the person. Some may think better is not important. Maybe you’ll do better next time, if you feel like it… Then there are others whose “better” is nothing but pure perfection. Thus, the demand for excellence compounds from the outside world and the internal world.

I have not figured out a way to combat this conundrum, so if you thought this post would have steps to releasing the demand, well, I’m afraid I have no answers. The only suggestion I can make is to witness when others demand excellence from you, then see how much you’ve placed upon yourself. More likely than not the inner critic is way harder on you than any boss… and I’ve dealt with some intense bosses…



There is something about March that sparks hope in me. Perhaps it is the coming of spring and the slow emerging from the darkness of winter. January 1st has nothing on March 1st; this is the real Happy New Year!  In fact, each month is like a brand new year, a blank sheet of paper ready for fresh ideas and fresh ink.

This month I am keeping it simple. I set 3 goals this month. I appreciate goals that require simple and daily right actions that hold a huge pay off once in the flow. My goals are not usually about saving up to buy a fancy gadget, rather, I love things that make me happier on a daily basis and therefore a better and well-rounded person.


Please let me know what your goals are this month. I’d love to know!

1. Meditation :: I need to get my you-know-what in gear and commit to meditation on a daily basis. Not some days, or once a week, but every single day. In January I was successful in 20 days straight of morning meditation, but fell off that wagon. I’ve been reading The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching and meditation is imperative.

2. Spending Freeze :: This one isn’t as fun. Let’s be honest… but it is necessary. For the month of March my plan is to spend only on groceries, gas, and obvious bills/payments. I have a bad habit of money burning a hole in my pocket and I tend to get very liberal with spending after payday hits. Above is my fresh daily spending sheet that I developed back in January. I’m still finding the perfect way to use it, adding and removing categories for each month. It’s not a perfect system, but I’m sure I will have it down in a few months. For the month of March, I’m keeping it to the bare necessities and focus on “free” fun such as reading, drawing, and spending time with my husband and dog! *More on this to come!

3. Creativity :: I love to draw and paint with water colors. I haven’t been inspired much the last month or two as being wrapped up in layers is not conducive for comfort while working on art projects. Each day my goal is to spend at least 30 minutes on a drawing. I do not need to finish anything, but 30 fun-filled, meditative minutes of drawing will get me back into a groove.